Real Question #1: How Do I Dream?

Real Answer #1:

There is a head side of this question and heart side. Here is the head side.

In Psalm 16, God uses the word pleasure. He says that we would find eternal pleasures. Not just the passing fancies, or “Wow’s” of life. But eternal, lasting forever pleasures. The ones that do not fade or spoil.

Psalm 16:11

You have made known to me the path of life; you will fill me with joy in your presence, with eternal pleasures at your right hand.

Isn’t that an odd choice of words, unless, unless. . . . Unless we are made in his image, so the whole notion or idea of pleasure comes from Him anyway.

So in a heart way, try to remember what you said you would do at age 10, age 15, age 20.  Somewhere in there are desires and thoughts and dreams you had before the world started knocking you around and down. Write them down and pray over them and let God sort, reveal and refine.

Still stuck? Try doing a vision board, a collage of pictures torn from magazines, that express aches, wants, “wish I could” ideas. And let the Lord surprise you over time with more revelation of who you are and what he had in mind for you.

Real Questions. Real Answers.

Does anybody else get tired of pat, worldly answers that never hit the deep spots? Even the answers that are wearing Christian clothes but just don’t fit? What about a “Dear Jesus” column? What if Jesus Himself spoke into the real needs of our lives?

In my first WGR class, I asked the women there, “What would you like to hear a Bible study on? What are your questions?”

The answers flew like popcorn:

Sex!
Broken relationships.
What about boredom?
How do you dream?

We try to tackle those questions in class. I’m also going to try to tackle them here. Each Wednesday, I’ll post one of the questions that I get every week from the class, from your emails, and from the women I meet with.  I don’t have all the answers.  But Jesus does. Together, we’ll try to see what Jesus says as we journey together.

In and Through Him,

Jana

Arrows and Answers

Getting ready to walk into a very sticky meeting, one I will talk about tonight at WGR, I shot up an arrow prayer:

God, you here?

The restaurant had a Thomas Kinkade print with this verse under it: Isaiah 55:12.

Isaiah 55:12 (New International Version)

12 You will go out in joy
and be led forth in peace;
the mountains and hills
will burst into song before you,
and all the trees of the field
will clap their hands.

Just Groan and Fake It?

Just in case you missed it, we have so lost our compass for honor and value that we teach women to give up their virginity to keep a man and then teach them to lie about it to keep their lives.


There are so many things that get me steamed up about this, but it is not the double standard; it is the blatant double loss of a woman’s honor. A woman’s worth is not in her hymen. It is in her heart and God-breathed design. Will we ever learn that God has a plan for us? Plans for hope and not harm. And if we blow it, if we go our own way instead of His, we don’t groan and fake it. We don’t deny we have sacrificed our honor; we fall on His grace. His blood is what we need. Not some fake ridiculous gadget.

The Pearl of Great Price

In the WGR class, I taught that we (yes, you and I) are the pearl of great price (Matthew 13-44). Needless to say, there were ricochets of emotions as we discussed our own Disbelief that we hold that kind of value to God. Is it really possible that we are items of luxury, purity, and extravagance – all that pearls represent?

Here, the morning after, I find even more brilliance in God’s analogy. I gave every woman a real pearl last night. But what they did not know is I went to the store, looked at strands of beautiful pearls, ran them through my fingers. There were bowls of individual pearls and I dug my fingers through them, touching them, examining them. All of them beautiful. All of them made from the same arduous effort of strain, pressure and time. Then I chose out of the many the ones that would become my own.

So a woman speaks up and says, “If there are 7 billion people in the world, how can one, namely me, have any value? If there is a whole bowl of pearls, how would one pearl gain any notice?” Perhaps here is an answer.

In the store, for a brief moment, I sensed God’s tender perspective about you and me. Just because there were many pearls, didn’t mean I couldn’t see them. I touched them, observed them, noticed their size, shape and color. Even when they were separated into like groups, I still loving touched them individually. I appreciated the value of each one. Each one had complete worth to me. They were still pearls. I still respected the quality of what they were made of, what they Were. Pearls.

Our God is big. He does not live in same dimension that we do. He readily sees us all. Yet he has the desire and effort to lovingly see, appreciate, and enjoy (!), what he has made individually.

You are an expression of luxury, purity, extravagance. And he has chosen you as his own.

“The Marriage Makeover” – Marriage Retreat – January 22 – 24, 2010

NOTE : THIS EVENT HAS BEEN RESCHEDULED FOR JANUARY 22-24, 2010

Your people will rebuild the ancient ruins
and will raise up the age-old foundations;
you will be called Repairer of Broken Walls,
Restorer of Streets with Dwellings.
Isaiah 58: 12

Every marriage needs renovation. Some need ground zero rebuilding. Most need a little help with the how-to’s. But all marriages need a renewed vision of the goal, God’s blueprints for lasting friendship, and intimacy.

This retreat led by Author/Speaker Jana Spicka will explore how neglect causes long term damage to our marriages but also how we can redesign and repair broken walls day by day. This is two days to talk to God and to your mate. It is not fluff and activities; but time to take a spiritual marriage inspection and create a God centered plan for how to build a marriage masterpiece.

When: January 22 – 24, 2010
Where: Lake Junaluska Retreat Center in Lake Junaluska, North Carolina

Details:
Two nights lodging in a private room with bath
Four meals: breakfast, lunch and dinner on Sat. and breakfast Sunday morning

Four teaching sessions with time for you to be alone, and to be alone as a couple

Cost is $315 per couple with a $75 deposit due by December 4th. Remaining balance due by January 8th. Note: the deposit is non-refundable but fully transferrable to another couple.

Space is limited so register early

Any questions please contact us at Lyschel@womengettingreal.com

Events

Unhindered Encounter – Oct 24, 2009 – Charlotte, NC

IMPORTANT ANNOUNCEMENT:
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Saturday, October 24, 2009 from 8:30am till 5:30pm at:

St. Francis United Methodist Church
4200 Mckee Road
Charlotte, NC 28270-1256

An all day retreat to examine heart issues and God answers. Cost includes the Unhindered Worship CD, four teaching sessions, conference materials, two snacks, lunch, and goodies you have to come to find out about. $55 before September 18th. $65 before October 18th. $75 at the door.

Limited scholarships are available. People have generously given so that all may attend who want to attend. So email us and let us know.

Registration fees are non-refundable but are fully transferable.

Need a scholarship? Please email Lyschel Burket for more information.